No I wasn't in line for that new iPad at the apple store; I’m perfectly happy with my not-so-old one, which I got about 2 months ago. I am writing to you, not about technological adventures, but obviously something dating related. It's the year of the bucket list for me, or more like second year going strong, and as they say there's a first time for everything. So-here it goes, drum roll please... I got stood up.
After spending countless hours trying to analyze, be understanding, and come up with every scenario in my head, but there's no way around it, it actually happened.
Most of my frustration comes not from the fact that I got stood up itself, but rather the fact that I don't know the reasoning behind it, and I probably never will. Since you the reader weren't there, let me fill you in on the run-down as to what happened.
I have met this person before, and spent maybe about 5 or 6 “dates” or hang-outs with them, whatever you'd like to call it, scattered over the past few months. I for certain crossed off any prospects with this person, and accepted the fact I wouldn't see him again as his “Schedule” had gotten increasingly busy, etc. That's a nice way to tell someone you're no longer interested in them anymore I guess. Not that there IS a nice way to do so, but that would probably be a less impact route.
So when he contacted me recently, told me how he broke his arm, etc, I kind of felt bad for not keeping contact with him, since that could have contributed to his absence. Ultimately allowing that to influence my thinking was probably a bigger mistake, as when he reached out to me, my guard was down thinking it was a harmless attempt to reconnect, being that things had gotten pretty awkward between us in the past few weeks.
I don't hold grudges and as a easy-going person I feel it can be good to give someone a second chance, especially when they are reaching out to you. I had spring break this past week, so it wasn't like I was changing my schedule around, I had free time, he was available, so when he said let's meet up I was perfectly okay with the idea. I had errands to run, trying to be as productive as possible with my day, and thought I would get a quick haircut before I saw him.
I got a text message from him saying that he was running late waiting for his doctor, at a follow up appointment to make sure everything was okay with his arm. He had missed his actual time and was on standby, since there were 4 people ahead of him. I didn't see anything wrong with it, being my hair appointment was most likely going to run longer also, and that it was no big deal if he's an hour late or so. I told him to let me know when he's done and we can decide what we want to do based on the time, dinner, coffee, etc. Every half hour or so he kept me updated as to the waiting room status, and when he finally saw his doctor- 3 hours later mind you, he decides to text me, not “I'm on the way, so sorry it took so long” but rather “I'm going to have to reschedule, I have to go back to work to pick up my laptop since I have a business trip tomorrow, and by the way I got a promotion.”
Okay so the fact that you got a promotion is relevant how to you canceling on me, being unapologetic about it, not to mention are nonchalant about the whole thing? Why would you make me wait, 4 more hours to then in turn cancel, instead of doing so originally? I would have respected him more had he said off the bat, “I'm running late and I don't think I will be free anytime soon. I'm sorry but can we reschedule?”, instead of keeping me hanging and telling me what he thinks I want to hear. My time spent waiting patiently was for nothing, during which I could have made other plans right away! I had taxes to file, other people that I could have met, things to take care of. Half of my day got wasted, and for something that I didn't even initiate in the first place.
Ultimately what I realized is this, if he is careless enough to miss an opportunity to be with me, then why should I want someone like that in my life in the first place?
And if you were wondering: I texted him back saying, its not a big deal, and that I didn't get why he made me wait and cancel, rather than letting me know right away especially when he had to take care of something at work. I said I wish him well, and congrats with the job opportunity, but that he got his second chance from me, but now I’m done waiting.
I haven't heard back from him since.
